Even a Great Husband Makes a Very Poor God

As I read this it sent my thoughts into screaming activity as I acknowledged how much I have looked to Keith over the last three and a half years to sort out my problems, to bring light on the why’s and wherefore’s of why my life is as it is.  To make it better.  It has tested our relationship very severely and it has nothing to do with him at all, it is to do with me and the exclusion of me from my children and my grandchildren’s lives.  I know it is neither Keith’s place nor in his power to make it all betteronly God can do that, by working in my life and the lives of my children.  I know God is doing tht, but have I prayed well enough?  I certainly fall short in many areas of that focus and lean only onto my own understanding time and time again.  Not good.  Time to make some permanent changes.

via Even a Great Husband Makes a Very Poor God.

 

Even a Great Husband Makes a Very Poor God

Even a Great Husband Makes a Very Poor God

May 22, 2014

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19 (NIV)

Lysa TerKeurst

I’ve often wished I could travel back 21 years ago and give my “young bride self” some advice. But since that’s not possible, I love sharing what I’ve learned with others.

Not so long ago, I had dinner with a friend in her twenties who would love to be married one day. During our time together, the conversation flowed freely about all sorts of things. Blogs. Writing. Leaving your comfort zone because God said so. You know, girl stuff. And then we moved on to the subject of relationships and marriage.

I shared with my friend that when I was single, I thought marriage was all about finding the right partner. I thought if you found “the one,” you’d be happy, secure and fulfilled.

I do think it’s good to have a list of standards you desire in a spouse. However, it can never be with the expectation that if you find that special someone, he’ll right all your wrongs and fill up all your insecurities. The problem with this thinking is the pressure it will eventually put on your spouse.

To expect another person to make you feel happy, secure and fulfilled will leave you disappointed at best and disillusioned at worst. Even a great husband makes a very poor God.

Only God Himself can settle those deep heart-needs. Our key verse, Philippians 4:19 reminds us of this, “And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.”

If a husband could meet every need his wife had, we’d have no need for God. Therefore, instead of just focusing on finding the right partner, let God work on your heart to help you become the right partner. The time to start working on becoming a wife is now. Before the white dress, delicate bouquets, unity candle, bacon-wrapped shrimp and reception punch, there is some heart stuff to consider:

Getting married doesn’t instantly make you selfless it makes you realize how very selfish you can be at times.

Getting married doesn’t make you feel loved it makes you realize love is more of a decision you make than a feeling you feel.

Getting married doesn’t take away loneliness it makes you realize true companionship comes not when you demand it, but rather when you give it to another person.

So, what does marriage give? A beautiful chance to make the choice to

Laugh whether or not the jokes are funny.

Love by folding his collar over his tie every morning.

Talk things through by addressing issues rather than attacking him personally.

Cheer him on through both failures and successes.

Look for a positive quality in him each day and take the time to tell him.

Thank God for the privilege of being his wife.

After our time together, my friend thanked me for our talk. She said it gave her a lot to think about. To be honest, it gave me a lot to think about as well.

Dear Lord, only You can fill my heart, right my wrongs, and make me feel loved. I pray that You would show me how to keep my expectations of my husband in check. Help me be the wife he desires. And help me remember that marriage was never meant to make me happy all the time. Marriage is a decision to honor You by honoring the one you’ve entrusted to me to be my husband. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

TRUTH FOR TODAY:
Romans 15:13, “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.” (NIV)

2 Peter 1:3, “Everything that goes into a life of pleasing God has been miraculously given to us by getting to know, personally and intimately, the One who invited us to God. The best invitation we ever received!” (MSG)

RELATED RESOURCES:
Determine to pray more words over your marriage than you speak about your marriage. Lysa is sharing five powerful Scriptures you can pray for yourself and your husband on her blog. Click here to find out more.

If you’re seeking more encouragement for your marriage, Lysa’s books, Capture His Heart (for wives) and Capture Her Heart (for husbands) can help. These books are wonderful resources to read with your husband!

REFLECT AND RESPOND:
If you aren’t married yet, think of some ways God might want to work on your heart before marriage.

If you are married, think of a way you’ve tried to get your husband to fill a need only God can meet. Pray and ask God how you can rely on Him for this need instead of your husband.

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